Ok, its back to the drawing board {sob!}
I'm admitting defeat and throwing in the towel on trying to correct the cuff edge.
Yesterday I tried to pick out just the cuff edge and "redo", but have succeeded in just creating a HUGH mess at the end of the sleeve, so for now I will be setting this aside to be addressed after my daughter's wedding....there's just too much to be done for that in the next 19 days!
And I think I'll be giving up on the idea of knitting both sleeves at once, its just more than I can keep straight (maybe I'll feel differently about that after the wedding)